He wasn’t just angry at Kevin for what Kevin did to him personally, but because as Stevonnie, Kevin also hurt Connie. And I’m sure Mama Rose is in there deep down, too…
Even so, they eventually manage to overcome this; they realize their anger was getting the better of them…
… something I think is very important to teach people. It’s not that they weren’t allowed to ever feel angry or upset or disgusted by what Kevin did – it’s that it’s unhealthy for them to linger on it, to do things because of Kevin instead of for themselves.
They ultimately finish the race, having fun, because they want to, not because of Kevin. He has no right to control them or their emotions – he’s not worth their time, he’s not worth their effort, he doesn’t deserve to push them around. Sort of like Greg’s run-in with Kevin.
“Hey, you forgot to – !”
“Ehh, what do I care, I’m rich.”
Greg, though in a different situation, is the first example we see of letting certain people and things go, because holding onto them is unhealthy and ultimately hurts you. It’s like what Garnet said in Message Received:
“[…]
Like your mother, you seem to have a little more patience than the rest of us. But the truth is, not everyone deserves that patience.”
Even though Kevin may not deserve Stevonnie’s patience, that doesn’t mean they won’t still uphold their own values and be civil when they have to interact with him. That’s a really awesome trait and something I personally look up to.
So, I guess what I took from this was that …
It’s fine and normal to be mad and upset when someone disregards your consent; you’re allowed to feel that way and it’s not wrong and it’s not your fault.
Not everyone deserves your patience.
You’re not wrong for separating yourself from toxic people who hurt you and put you in an emotionally unhealthy place.
It’s not your job to fix these people, these people who don’t even respect you at all, who will never do any good for you, no matter how much you do for them. They will never return it in kind, that’s not a healthy relationship, and you don’t need to be in it.
You can separate yourself from people like this and still uphold your morals and values. Protecting yourself and refusing to give disrespectful people your time doesn’t make you a bad person.
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